Bullying??

My experience with bullying was with someone I called a friend. A normal eye wouldn't have spotted any bullying in this relationship... It turns out one of my oldest friend  named Ajay enjoyed playing rough with me. Ajay likes to push and shove me around to make me feel little. As soon as I found out it was more like a warlike friendship I tried to avoid him, but he kept coming to look for me.

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Pushing and shoving in a rough like manner was one of the ways we started a game, or it was either a war type game that always had me isolated in a corner by myself. An example of one of the games we enjoyed was this specific type of war where you have your own territory, you either protect your territory or turn to offence and attack another territory. But my feelings weren't much of a meaning to him and the game would go on until someone would bleed or get bruised. Changing my feelings about Ajay was very hard, for I had injured him in the head when I was little and he had to go to doctor to get stitches. This made me feel pity for him because I was the one who caused the accident. This lasted for at least from third grade to fourth grade. Even though it sounds as if it was one of the worst relationships I had chosen  I would not let it go because he also was a good friend. Sometimes he would stand up for me or he would comment on what I've changed about myself in a positive way. We also enjoyed doing things together like watching a movie and trying to find subjects in a movie we agree with.

 

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If I had a chance to restart this friendship, I would have studied how Ajay reacts to other people, as a bully or not, how nice he is. Later on if I would be his friend I would have tried to stop the accident from happening, but this would be going against the quote "what happens, happens for a reason". His reason might have been wanting to be the best and most popular kid. He believed that to have more strength is the bridge towards popularity and he wanted to be the winner in every game (like Chuck Norris). If I would meet these certain type of people in the future I wouldn't lay the same cards as I did with Ajay, and I would not play such games where we could hurt each other intentionally or un-intentionally.

Two goals for this trimester would be (1) Keeping the friends I have with me, and try to communicate with them when we do something that might hurt each other to avoid breaking up our relationship. (2) To be a good friend and to understand my friends better.